This continues an ongoing monologue I’ve been having in my head, on this blog, and on my previous blog on the social platform that Mark Zuckerberg founded 10 years ago.
First, let me preface my remarks here this morning, written again in the early hours thanks to my cat unceremoniously waking me up at 4:30 (again) and then my own thoughts keeping me awake after that, by saying from the get-go that my sister thinks that I overthink things like this. When I initially mentioned these ideas to her, she said that I have a tendency to overthink things. Although that is true to some degree (like the nth degree, as I sit here and even analyze the conversation), my response was, and is, this: I do think it’s important to know why we do what we do. As I concluded with my last post, here is where I share my journey as an unfinished person, virtual and real. This is all part of my becoming hopefully a more finished person day by day and in turn, maybe something you can take away to make you a more finished person too.
Now for my remarks, which I know you’ve been waiting on tenterhooks for since I said “let me preface my remarks”:
After much thought (er, OBviously), I am no longer using emoticons or “likes” on Facebook or at least using them both only in moderation. I know. Cray, cray (insert some kind of cray, cray gif if I was all about the meme). This goes along with my thoughts that I had on Saturday with my seeing stats on status updates and Facebook page posts that all of that isn’t like a virtual applausemeter, but that it is indeed a virtual applausemeter in which I can stroke my ego. I don’t know if I was always like this, but I think that sociologically Facebook has changed how all of us communicate with others and how we perceive ourselves somewhat. Two examples are emoticons and likes.
In the case of emoticons, as I told my sister in of all places a Facebook Messenger conversation (speaking of how much Facebook has changed how we communicate with others), I’m 44 years old and not a 14-year-old girl. I think others, especially my “friends” should be able to figure out from the context if I’m joking or not. If you’re my friend and haven’t learned my sense of humor by now, then you really don’t know me (insert “If you don’t know me by now” song clip).
Photo by webhamster, on Flickr
Don’t click this willy-nilly or you could go blind.
“Likes” are a bit more complicated, in that by not using them or at least using them less than I have been (which means a lot less) I am going to have to not expect to receive them either (OMG! How will I live without you, ego-stroking device?). The trade-off is that perhaps I will engage in conversation instead of just clicking “like” willy-nilly. If I see something that resonates with me, and I feel like sharing and that it is prudent to share, I’ll let you know that it resonates with me and why it resonates with me. Otherwise, no willy-nilly clicking, which I think is a good rule for life in general since clicking especially on the willy part of it might lead to blindness if you click too much, I hear.
Bottom line: For myself, I think that I overuse both emoticons and likes and I am going to limit my use of them. However, I pass no judgment on those who do use them…
…well, except for that earlier 14-year-old comment.